It did not occur to me until a handful of years ago, how much improvement my text game needed. Face to face with a girl, I generally considered myself a charmer with a playful vibe and good stories about adventures abroad.
However, sometimes that humor does not transcend well into texting. I either get too silly, use too many smiley faces and have a hard time holding frame and getting the girl to pursue me.
So i decided to improve my text game with girls, and from and i want to share my experience of what works.
Here are five tips to texting I have learned along the way:
5. Turn off auto-capitalization
Now when you text a girl, it has a much more laid back feeling.
4. Do not use question marks, exclamation points, emoticons
For one, they just are not necessary. Your humor and wit should be conveyed without any of these features. You can laugh a bit, but do not do it often. Remember, your life is awesome and full of cool things and you do not have time to waste by texting girls.
Hit her up, drop a bit of charm and plan the date.
3. Grammar is unimportant
Again, it just makes you more laid-back.
2. Take your time
If she responds back in 15 minutes, hit her back in 20. If she waits 2 hours, you get back to her in 2.5-3 hours. It does not have to be exact, just remember that it all comes back to respect.
If she does not respect your time by responding promptly, she does not deserve a quick response.
It is human nature that when you send a text, you naturally check your phone within 1-5 minutes for a response. If you have more discipline, you will put your phone on silent and put it in the opposite corner of the room, while you fill your time with productive things like working on yourself, your business or meeting more women.
Kick the validation habit of expecting a text quickly. The slow burn is powerful, as most chicks are surrounded by beta orbiters hungry for their attention.
1. What works
After trial and error, I now have a pretty simple pattern. If I meet a girl I say, “it’s…the sexy guy from (where we met)” If they are into me, they will respond back enthusiastically and if not, I move on.
Then I chill back for a day or two, and begin the conversation with:
Me: “hey cutie (or sexy), how is your day going”
Her: “blah blah.. you?”
Me: (something cool I did, usually involving one of my strengths and chicks dig a guy who are good at something.) Find out, what you are good at and play by it.
Her: blah blah
Me: “let’s grab a drink sometime”
Her: (either a yes or a no, it is just to see if she is interested)
Me: “cool, let’s hit up “random” lounge, bar, whatever they have the best cocktails in town, hows tuesday or thursday at 9″ (Give her to options, you are a busy man, and you are busy the rest of the week. Also, her response will show you if she is busy, available or simply not interested.
Her: (either a yes, no or maybe (which usually means no). If she counteroffers with another day, that is a good sign. If she says, “maybe next week” that is generally a terrible sign and she wants more validation as she is demanding that you ask her out again if you want a shot with her. Wait a week, reinitiate the conversation and see what happens.)
I do not think texting can be more stripped down.
Oh, and one more thing.
Be aware of shit tests.
I have seen this a lot, where a girl will respond with “I’m not a big drinker, but how about dinner.”
First off, that is arrogant and entitled that if someone asks you out for a free and delicious alcoholic beverage that you respond with “No, how about you spend 3x-4x as much so you can fill my belly.”
Plus, nobody feels sexy after eating plates of Italian or Chinese food.
“water for you then, but random place has the best cocktails in town. how bout Thursday at 9”
In that response I teased her by saying she can only have water, and ignored her demand for dinner. Then I went right back into my offer, and spiced it up with promising delicious cocktails.
Her response will reveal where she stands with you.
In fact, the better you get at game, the more you are learning how to filter girls out as quickly as possible.
She lives 45-60 minutes drive away? Rejected, as she is geographically undesirable.
She has kids? Definitely not.
She is a 7 but has a ton of attitude? Nope, plenty of better behaved girls who will respect my time.
Guys, what are your big issues when it comes to text? Drop a comment below and let’s help each other.
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